YOU LOVE EACH OTHER - BUT YOU’RE STUCK IN THE SAME PATTERNS.

High-functioning, spiritually curious, and deeply committed… yet:

  • conflict keeps looping

  • intimacy feels inconsistent

  • and connection doesn’t feel like it used to

You don’t need more analysis…

You need nervous-system-level change you can feel.

Your nervous systems are running an old protective dance - one that pulls you into the same arguments, shutdowns, and distance on repeat.

This leaves you:

  • feeling misunderstood or unseen

  • snapping or withdrawing under stress

  • craving closeness but fearing conflict

  • exhausted trying to “talk it out”

  • longing for the ease, warmth, and safety you used to share

The Real Issue

Your relationship should fuel your life.


Instead, it’s quietly draining it.

If you’ve done the work but the patterns persist - this is your next layer...

Licensed EMDR therapist offering online therapy in Los Angeles California

I’m Rachel Sillman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Conscious Couples Coach.

I help high-functioning, spiritually aware couples transform recurring conflict into steady connection, playful intimacy, and embodied emotional safety.

I’ve spent years in meditation, somatics, hypnosis, and psychedelic/spiritual traditions - allowing me to meet couples with depth and grounded clinical precision through a rare blend of modalities:

  • Attachment-focused EMDR

  • Hakomi + somatic relational work

  • Trauma-attuned communication practices

  • Optional spiritual intensives

  • Somatic intimacy & regulation tools

START HERE

15-MINUTE CONNECTION CALL

Identify the roots of your conflict, get a sense of the process, and explore the best-fit pathway.

YOUR

RELATIONSHIP 

CAN FEEL

LIKE HOME

AGAIN.

Imagine six months from now:

• conflict is calm, collaborative, and repair happens fast

• intimacy feels alive and consistent

• communication feels warm, clear, grounded

• your home feels like a refuge, not a battleground

• you laugh more, touch more, relax more

• creativity, leadership, and energy come back online

• your relationship becomes your strongest source of support

If nothing changes… nothing changes.

And the cost is real:

• the same argument looping for months or years
• intimacy slowly eroding
• resentment building in the partner who “carries the emotional work”
• dysregulation affecting creativity, leadership, and family life
• the fear of drifting apart becoming your quiet norm

Insight alone won’t shift this.


Your nervous systems need a new way of relating.

THE

CONSCIOUS

RECONNECTION

METHOD™

A 5-Phase Process for Lasting Change

  • Reveal the protective strategies and conflict cycles driving disconnection.

    Using a blend of mirroring and mapping, we gently uncover the protective patterns each partner has developed to guard unresolved wounds. Through experiential methods such as psychodrama and somatic exploration, we create a safe space to revisit moments of conflict—not to relive them, but to bring unconscious dynamics into conscious awareness and open the door to more compassionate connection.

  • Regulate the nervous system,

    using techniques and tools such as Breathwork, Hakomi, Somatic Attachment, & Mindfulness.

  • Process unmet needs, attachment wounds, and emotional pain beneath the surface.

    We’ll draw on parts work, psychodrama, and Hakomi to support the body’s natural process of releasing pain held around emotional wounding. This creates space for each partner to communicate with greater clarity and compassion - without falling into patterns of defensiveness or blame.

  • Learn new communication templates, repair sequences, and intimacy rituals.

    This work uses Hakomi-informed somatic tools to help couples slow down, feel safe in their bodies, and reconnect with one another outside of therapy.

  • Integrate new neural pathways so closeness, trust, and play become your norm.

    Hakomi-informed work allows couples to experience safety and attunement in the body, not just talk about it. Over time, this supports nervous system regulation and the development of more secure attachment patterns. Hakomi is a mindfulness-based, body-centered approach to therapy that helps clients gently uncover and transform deeply held relational patterns.

Clients Report:

  • Better ability to communicate challenging emotions before conflicts arise.

  • Deeper understanding and ease in meeting each others needs. 

  • More play and physical intimacy.

  • Greater sense of unity and togetherness.

Couples therapy supporting emotional connection, communication, and trust

Here’s How We Can Work Together:

RAPID RESOLUTION INTENSIVE™

Half Day Quick Reset Into Connection

From one stuck issue → to clarity, repair, and relief in a single session.

4-hour somatic deep dive, in-person or virtual.

REPAIR & REWIRE IMMERSION™

3-Month Container (in person or virtual)

Communication that lands + repair that lasts for 1-2 core patterns.

From looping conflict → to calm communication and faster, embodied repair.

12 ninety-minute sessions + between-session support.

INTIMACY EVOLUTION JOURNEY™

6-Month Deep Dive (in person or virtual)

Full system relational repair - secure connection, attunment, and intimacy that feels natural.

From inconsistent connection → to consistent intimacy, attunment, and playful ease.

24 ninety-minute sessions + guided integration.

RELATIONAL RESET SPIRITUAL JOURNEY

In-person journey + Prep & Integration Sessions

From old held pain → to a new relational blueprint rooted in safety and clarity.

Includes 5 90 minute prep sessions, journey work and 2 90 minute integration sessions.


For stable, well-resourced couples only.

Somatic and trauma-informed therapy supporting nervous system regulation

Begin With a 15-Minute Connection Call

Feel into our fit, and receive a personalized recommendation for your next step.